1) Please refer upgrade guides from following URL, you got to upgrade 4.1 host to 5.0 first, and then you do have a way to upgrade it to 6.0 if you wish, provided that Hardware requirements are met.
2) What's new docs will help you to see what new things you can use along with upgraded vSphere
http://www.vmware.com/files/pdf/vsphere/VMW-WP-vSPHR-Whats-New-6-0-PLTFRM.pdf